So you spoke your mind…then what?
An angry state of mind and an ‘unbridled tongue’ I believe can be one of the most consequential combinations that negatively impact our day to day interactions. Admittedly, an angry disposition PLUS a weapon can be more dangerous, but that’s not the focus of this piece.
Too often we jump at every opportunity to voice our discontent or disdain about something that someone said or did, and we make use of a ‘loose’ tongue to ‘speak our mind’ and exact retribution and judgement against the person.
This is not necessarily to say that we should not voice our discontent. I believe it is best to ‘get stuff off our chest’ instead of harbouring malice and ill will against someone. However, resolving conflict in our interactions with others requires maturity and authenticity, and it helps to approach this with an appropriate combination of action and words. This is indeed the healthiest way to reach a resolution – IF reaching a resolution is in fact the goal.
Whether they be spoken or typed onto a screen, unless we stop and think about the intention or motive of the words we are about to utter, or type, we often end up causing more harm than good.
It sometimes requires us taking a step back, and a few more moments of thought – until the mind is clear – to rectify the situation and create a more harmonious outcome from the conversation. Thus we can end up sparing someone, even ourselves, great embarrassment.
Let us learn to pause before responding. There is great wisdom and value in the occasional delay.
#ThinkThenSpeak #PositiveConversations #BeCalm